Working with families (Christine)

About 30,500 Canadain men and women under 40 went to Afg. about 8% suffer PTSD:big impact on families

face different and possibly more stresses than two parent homes

children can do well, but face some harships

poverty is a factor, stress, loneliness, feeling overwhelmed

shifts in family roles, economic hardships, racial disc. language diff. emigration, gender tension, cultural beliefs

-research shows no significant difference in children with same sex parents

Children may face repercussions, and family type is not an important predictor of adolescent functioning

the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress, such as family/re. prob.

a journey through emotional and physical pain, while not losing hope; also learned behaviour and adapted beliefs

family, friends, good worldview, good communication, emotional regulation

teach children to be positive, child friend., encouragement, don't catastophize, learn from mistakes, promote emotional regulation

by interaction, families teach their values and beliefs, learned generationally: positive and negativve

Relationships are built when people support each other when things go right; active constructive responding, model good friendships

A bid in an attempt to open the lines of communication, return communication build relationships

Behaviour that sends a message that can be a metaphor for something else. the positive helps build relationships

Previously a deficit-based assessment was used to see what was missing; a strength focus: looks at strengths and abilities: family thrive :)

social influences, individual characteristics and temperament and family

self esteem and self efficacy, easy going temperament, good coping and problem solving skills, good fam. functioning

Ability to form healthy attachments, ability to self-regulate, good comm. & learning skills, maintain relationships

Parental resilience, social connections, create support, know. parent & child dev., child social/emot. competence

Supportive family and social networks, nurturing parenting skills, stable fam. relationships, house rules and child monitoring

parental employment, adequat housing, access to health care, and social services, adult support (family or non)

What are some of the things you've accomp. together? Helped in hard times? family communication? Friendships in family?

Step 1. open-ended quest. to identify strengths, 2. help family reframe problems as needs

Catastrophizing: an exaggerating, irrational style of thought wehre you painfully blow real/imagined disas. out of prop to a manuf. misery

an un-anxious presence, and guidance to avoid catastrophizing and manage strong emotions

All or nothing thinking, overgeneralization, disqual. positive, jump concl., Exag., "should" state., label and mislabel

they can lead to conflict, but they are also an opportunity to learn and correct without blame. Can be opportunities to learn a better way

promotes communication and understanding

Independence, Coupling and Marriage, Parenting from infancy through ad., launching adult child., Retirement

leave home & est. themsel. emotionally, financially, physcially, and socially.

Dev. adult personalities, create social netw., hopes prominent, handle school and jobs indep. crisis of conf. mental health and emerg

Seek relationship with another person, requires trust and ability to adapt, personal insight and for partner and have compassion for other

one challenge is to make the person they love more important in their lives than their parents, sibl, or friends. two fam. are blended.

The arrival of children, the most challenging, but most joyous and rewarding

Made easier by: take care of couple relat., estab. routines, set limits that all can support.

Image maing (preg), Nurtu.(0-18m), Author. (2-4y), Interp.(pres-adol), Indep. (adol), departure

solve prob/compr., balance needs, confron. prob together, use coping strat. to ease stress

learning who one is as a person, fix or leave marriage, reneg. relat. with chldren, deal with life changes: loss?

last stage/many changes, could be granchildren, finance changes, loss of autonomy in relation., more health issues, grief: health, loss, cha

Older adults can make sign. contributions to young people, can share knowledge, perspectiveand skills

younger families supporting or assisting parents, lack of comm. support aid in autonomy which forces them into institutions

exchange of verbal and non-verbal information, based on thoughts and feelings, involves assumptions

clear and direct, co-operative rather than competitive, involves self-disclosure, needs good recipient

Assetive:"I" message, Passive:withholding, Aggressive: distance through fear, Passive/aggressive: express anger in covert way

I'm not made, fine whatever, I'm calm!, I thought you knew, I was only joking, why are you getting so upset

Clear and direct, clear and indirect, masked and direct, masked and indirect

Positive and affirming, clear and concise, delivered in a warm tone

Indirect, Negative, Critical, Contemptuous, Dismissive, Unclear, Deliv. angry, mixed message

Gender and Culture

How parents communicate teaches their children to do the same

Feel satisfaction with the way they comm., honest about true feelings, no neg. comm., feel understood and listened to

as efffectively as possible

avoid victim role, explan. & apoligies are helpful, be sensitive to other, set boundaries, a sense of humor, retain some independence

Defined, to some degree, be ethnic and cultural background, gender is an important way in which roles are ascribed

Direct comm., Instruction, Guidance, modeling behavour, external contexts

differing perceptions and expectations of children and parents

school environments and ethnocultural gangs

poverty, discrimination, fear of deportation, lack of cult. sens. supports, stigma, rigid roles

strong family bonds, ethnic cultural bonds and pride, suppor. mentors, neighb.support, religious rights/rituals/festivals, culturally sensit

help family members listen/understand/motivate, stress need for flexibility

splintered families, family reunification, separation, difficulty in reuniting,transnational families, collectivist culture, individ/cultur

Concern about effects of action on others, sharing (non)material benefits, accept others views, concern loss of face, contribution to others

face strain caused by trauma, intergen. trauma, trauma can have positive symptoms, identify strength and resilience

discuss openly the reality of traumatic events, discuss coping strategies, help nav. financial systems, good resource network, trained traum

150 years of assimilation caused intergenerational trauma, residential schools: impact of survivors, their parents, their children and commu

domestic violence in Abor. fam. is "multi-factorial social syndrom and not imply an undesirable behaviour"

understood in order to be able to restore wholeness, trust, and safety to Abor. fam. and community life

at a special risk of violence

havev skills related to trauma, addiction, and family violence, and competent in aboriginal culture

isolation of communities, ineffective legal remedies, no culturally appropriate and sensitive services

be aware of Positive cultural values, spiritual beliefs that lead to healing, be familiar with rituals, routines, ceremonies, art, dance

reducing the history by forcing traditional Canadian treatments and interventions on Aboriginal familes

divorce can have a significant impact on children, emotional divorce

income reduction, negative impact on social networks, may lead to relationship problems with parents once children are adults.

sufficiently studied

socio-econnomic. Poverty related issues are more frequently a factor

in 2011 there were 64, 575 families, 9.4% children in home, conflict with differing views, causes stress and alientation, high mental health

be different than those of heterosexual couples, except in their experiences of social discrimination

performed within various contexts, including that of attachment/caregiving"

when sceneriios are repeated:said according to script, come from stories of what was done in past, worst would happen if not followed

story told over as if it were true, create group through stories of its values, founders, or position with respect to others, rituals

Beliefs: religion, life experience, others, family history, beliefs can be constraining and limit options of the individual

Helps maintain homeostasis, distractions from taboo, can provide a safe space for change and experimentation

Replicatioin and Eradication

Use positive family/personal stories, see the positives of the stories in the here and now

behaviour patterns over several generations; includes stories of ancesotrs of how responses changed over generations

stories told over and over to create family belief system; can be emotional, financial, spiritual, they become cognitive/emotional legacies

when working with families, it is important to uncover specific belief systems; are family belief systems still serving the family well?

every family has secrets, they can be destructive, revealing can be dangerous, consequences need to be revealed

homeostatis, or stability, in both positive and negative ways

is then held responsible for being the sole agent of all the family's problems

avoid examining their own behaviour; occurs when there is a high degree of anxiety, anger, pain or maltreatment

Proximity maintenance, safe haven, secure base, separation distress

Secure attachment; ambivalent-insecure, avoidant-insecure, disorganized-insecure

is comfortable and confident, success at early dev., is trusting, good relationships, optimistic and positive, good at solving problems

Plays often with children, responsive to children's needs, responds quickly to a child

seeks comfort from parent, separates without distress, returns calmly, prefers parent to stranger

parents respond inconsistently with child's needs, interfere with their discovery of the world

distress, anxious, tend not explore their worlds as much

can cause chaos in the family

causes the child's world to seem out of control, unsafe, or frightening

core beliefs

the lens through which we view the world and lead to our expectations of the present future

to have rigid core beliefs, neg. thoughts about themselves, distrustful of others, focus on survival than thriving

safe environment, promote balance for togetherness, role flexibility, maintain boundaries